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Nice work. I enjoyed reading your witty modern article.

Please remember that a short comment of criticism reflects a disappointment of the giver usually based upon an incident. Dot-to-dot a series of disappointments over time becomes a pattern of criticisms that can undermine a normal relationship. And since most critical incidents are not openly discussed by both parties due to a fear of motives or of “getting caught” the usual conclusion is to label the other as worthy or not worthy, based on one’s image of one’s self, instead of addressing the issue and reaching an understanding. (IMO, technique isn’t really the issue.) Once a complex pattern develops, it is much harder to defend behavioral choices by either party so the typical easy way is to opt out or worse become resentful. That only leaves situations unresolved which often become subject material for shrinks.

Instead of always being hasty or politically correct, imagine how much more could be learned if people were to say, “hey, why the heck did you really do that? didn’t you think of the consequences in the big picture? what are you going to do to help regain the positives again?”